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Guilt is eating me slowly, I feel so bad about it, what should I do?

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AnnaAnna


At work, the way they evaluate people is by calling a list of people with whom the person worked and asking them about their performance. Then as a result, the person is either promoted or fired. You cant stay at your same level.

I have been working with this manager for the past two years, hes the sweetest most kind hearted person you can know but at work he is SOOO disorganized, his ideas are all over the place, he makes us work every other weekend just because he doesnt know what he wants, call at ridiculously late hours at night and early hours in the morning etc. I cant tell you the number of times I was woken up at 5:00 AM for some ridiculous thing. He's super dedicated to his job which is great but we have a life!

Anyway during his assessment yesterday, I was honest and said that he was disorganized. I said the good things too but I think the fact that I was honest about the disorganization point in particular could cost him his job.

I feel sooo bad now, I cant look at him or look at myself. Hes such a nice person, he doesnt deserve to get fired but if he could only fix this thing.

Agggh I dont know!!! I just feel SUPER bad about it!!!

Should I call the person who is assessing him and explain again that he's really not that bad, and it's just this one thing.

mrreliable3599
mrreliable3599

Wow, I'll bet the company you work for has a happy, supportive, positive environment in which to work.

Not.

So basically the company has everybody ratting on everybody else, do I have that right?

First of all, don't blame yourself because the company you work for is run by control freak dunderheads. If you have the role to evaluate, be honest.

They're trying to create a company where everybody is an a&&-kisser. These situations rarely ever change, because the fish rots from the top. The person implementing these boot-licking policies is too ingrained in being a control freak to ever change.

I agree with the other poster that one comment about being disorganized is not going to get someone fired. If it's the fifth time, maybe.

Catherine Metal
Catherine Metal

Hey girl ,first of all in my opinion you did the right thing.if his disorganization is affecting your job or your life then you have a right to say something,but it also depends on how you said it.if you laid it on really thick, like you didn't explain how sweet and nice and caring he is then maybe you should apologize.

ICE555
ICE555

Nobody is going to be sacked because of some backhanded comment an inferior worker made.

The assessment officer will not appreciate you phoning him and instructing him how to conduct his job. He will take everything into account and make a decision. If he is really this bad you will not be the first or last to voice a concern.

Lady of Lourdes, pray for us
Lady of Lourdes, pray for us

Since you are not the only one to critic him and the reviewer should be Professional enough to properly evaluate the truth, don't worry, you did an honest job by telling the truth. The truth will set you free, don't be afraid of the truth, ever

PigDaddy
PigDaddy

It's a good question, but I think you're placing too much importance on your words alone. You don't think they'll fire him because of one lesser employee's opinion do you? Sorry, you don't account for that much!

Happy2Help
Happy2Help

It would have been unethical to lie if you really did think he was doing a bad job. You did the right thing.

Alex
Alex

I agree with Mr Reliable. IF in fact your words get him fired, it may be the best thing that's happened to him because he'll find a better job, one where he's not in constant fear that such trivial things will cost him his job. Perhaps even an environment that supports him and helps him become better at his job. You spoke the truth and what's done is done. Treat this as a learning experience; if you could do it over again, how would you handle the situation? Would you phrase things differently? Would you talk to your boss about these things before someone else asked you?

You've already given an evaluation to this person assessing him and included the good he does. Would you have different topics to discuss if you called them again or would you just be repeating what you've already said? Are you included in this "get promoted or get fired" scheme? If I were you, I'd get my resume in order and start applying for other jobs. Getting promoted in this unhealthy work environment doesn't sound appealing to me and and alternative is... finding another job. Better to have a head start in the process.

Smokies Hiker
Smokies Hiker

Why would you ever worry about any situation where you told the truth! Let's suppose that no one ever said anything about this managers lack of organization. The person making the decision to promote this manager has nothing but good evaluations about the manager, so he's promoted to a more responsible position, but as everyone will soon discover, this guy has no idea how to "manage" anything. Suppose his ineptness would cause the company to lose jobs? Maybe your job could be affected. The people he would be working with would surely wonder why his co-workers had never said anything about his job performance before being promoted. The company may just decide to fire everyone involved with allowing this guy to be promoted to a position involving more responsibility and authority! If you make the call about him not being that bad of a manager, then your head could be on the "chopping block" for not being truthful about his managerial abilities. ( Did you lie then or are you lying now? ) The people at the top usually have a pretty good idea about their employees abilities anyway. In my opinion you did exactly the right thing! I've seen people in management positions continually "bluff" their way through problems and continue to get promoted, until one day, they have no one to turn to for help because they're at the top and others are turning to them for help. The whole department can be jeopardized by the "manager" being inadequate at their job. Don't worry, you did the correct thing! Possibly others did too!


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