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Can a person who has prior felonies have a productive and successful career?

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I have been dating this guy for nearly two years. He is very sweet we connect in so many ways that I never thought could be possible. He is about 11 years older than I am in age I couldn't fathom seeing how we would relate to one another but we did. I am a 20 year old college student who has many goals and priorities set before her and I plain on accomplishing every one of them in time. Meeting this man has given me a whole new perspective on how relationships work I have never been able to open up the way I do with him to anyone. In many cases he has felt the same way our bond is very emotional and strong and I know that I love him very much when I think of him I know I want to spend my future with him. Here is the problem recently he revealed to me that he has had issues and problems with the law in earlier years FELONIES. When he told me this I felt the world spinning like walls were caving in on me, I mean I can deal with our big age difference because I am quite mature but "Felonies" plural!! I really love this guy I care for him deeply but I am starting to think about my future, how can this work out? I have always been a very optimistic person but when I ponder on my future graduation, career, marriage and children I get a depressed feeling because I know criminal records follow you throughout life. A part of me believes it is up to the individual, how determined they are to change there lives and become successful but is it? Does that even matter once the damage to your reputation has been done? I wish I knew some success stories of people who have experienced this. I am just confused, I know my future is bright but I am not to sure about my future with him now I am trying so hard to stay positive. What should I do? Thanks in Advance

Prorkycake
Prorkycake

Well, I don't think anyone can answer this question for you. You fail to mention what kind of felonies, what state these felonies were committed in and how long ago they were committed. Those are all kind of the basic need-to-know information so someone that has been through or knows information can help you.

With that said, typically, it is extremely difficult for someone with felonies to get certain careers. Especially if they live in a state where these felonies cannot be expunged or sealed. It also depends on the place hiring. Sometimes, they do not require you to disclose felonies over ten years. Even if he was able to get those expunged or sealed, background checks will often still show the arrest record.

As for your future, he went TWO years before disclosing this to you. I think you should just start from there and decide for yourself what other things he isn't communicating to you. Relationships are about honesty and communication. No matter how in love you think you are with this person, you need to take a step back and ask yourself, feelings about him aside, would you have walked away 6 dates in before he had you hook, line and sinker? If you would have walked away knowing he was a felon before you fell in love with him, you should probably walk away now. You have to be willing to accept a person for who they are 100%. It sounds like you are hesitant to do that and not ready to make a full commitment to this person. If for two years, he got away with you not doubting him...and you doubt him now...not a good sign. But only you can decide that.

Tass
Tass

I met someone but will not go into detail too much - had a professional career, messed up and ended up in prison. He lost his license to practise but got back on track and has a really good career now. I commend him for turning himself around and his determination to succeed.

My partner worked for the government fairly recently and had to have rigorous background checks for terrorist and full security clearances that involved checks made on myself, his parents etc. so if your job involves something along this sort of clearance, you need to stop worrying.

Think your guy's past should not affect you as this seems to be your issue here as you say your future is bright.

Sorry, if you are worried about his past being a problem to you in the future, you need to decide if your career or your partner is more important to you - you may meet somebody less honest next time. Not all people with convictions are monsters, many have learned a valuable lesson in life and have made mistakes.

kapn
kapn

Depends.......what were his felonies for..........more than one.........it appears he didn't learn the first time........to be quite frank............suck it up and move on........sorry.........you don't need any extra baggage ..........and that's what it will be...........just remember ..............a felony is forever........

Consider this...........There are thousand and thousands of talented, experience people on the street due to the economy¦the competition for any job is extreme. ¦people will do anything for much less just to feed their kids¦¦..I dont expect it to get any better before 2012¦¦all of these people are clean.........


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